I do not always have a glass half-full attitude. I most certainly have my moments where I absolutely cannot find one positive thing about a situation. I call this situation my “funk”. I tend to be hard on myself when I know that I am only focusing on the negative and not seeing the positive. I have come to learn that it is not only okay to be pessimistic every once in awhile, but it is normal.
Everyone experiences moments in their lives that they just cannot cope with a specific situation and are overwhelmed. However, learning how to tame this pessimistic attitude is my goal in the New Year.
Here are seven ways I plan to use to be can be more optimistic in 2016! I hope they help you fight the “funk” and find positivity too!
1. Keep a gratitude journal! This can be kept by your bed, on your desk, or in the notes section of your phone. Start each day out writing down one thing that makes you smile, something you are thankful for, or one thing you are looking forward to. Revisit your journal before bed and write down why that event makes you feel grateful!
2. Express kindness toward someone else! If you like someone’s shirt, tell them. If someone makes you happy, let them know. A sincere compliment can go a long way. Positivity is contagious, and you never know who could need an extra dose of sunshine.
3. Combat negativity with positivity! Someone honks their horn at you? Smile and wave! Did someone say a derogatory comment towards you? Say how much you appreciate their opinion! Feeling negative about yourself? Check out week one of the Celebrate Yourself Challenge and confront your flaws!
4. Spend a day on it! So something is really bothering you and you want to be a negative Nelly? That is 100% okay! We all need our time to mope, but do not allow yourself to spend more than a day wallowing about a certain situation. Chances are the situation is irrelevant to your life long term. And if it’s something that you absolutely cannot get off your mind, like a fight with a good friend, confront the problem head on!
5. Stop overthinking! Overthinking is the cause of unnecessary anxiety. Chances are, Sally did not text you back because she was busy not because she suddenly decided she did not want to be your friend. Just relax, be patient, and allow things to play out the way they are intended to.
6. Find a creative outlet for your negativity! Going to the gym, going for a run, reading a book, scrolling through Pinterest, painting a picture, or writing are all fantastic ways to take your mind off of your negative thoughts. When you are really angry, don’t confront the person that has angered you, don’t gossip, don’t use Facebook or Twitter as an outlet. Instead, take out your frustrations on a treadmill. Exercise releases endorphins which help keep the blues away. Your mind and body will thank you!
7. Change my environment! I have found that changing my scenery/environment helps to keep me calm. I have discovered that being surrounded in an environment with background noise and plenty of natural light nurtures my creativity. I also find taking breaks to be beneficial when I feel that I have hit a “road block” in my creativity. Thirty minutes sitting or walking outdoors refreshes me and gets me focused on the tasks I must attend to. Whether you take a walk, grab coffee with a friend, go shopping, or take a nap. Find what works best for you and stick with it!
Give yourself that time you need when you are feeling stressed, uncreative or unmotivated.
Be sassy, optimistic, and a little bit darling!
Stay optimistic and quirky!